you had to have been there

you had to have been there

You would only really understand or appreciate something if you had been present when it happened or was said. A: "I don't get it." B: "Sorry, it was more about the way Jeff did it that was funny. I guess you had to have been there." A: "So, tell me about the party!" B: "Oh, it was wild. You really had to have been there, because words wouldn't do it justice."
See also: been, have, there, to
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