where someone’s head is at

where (one's) head is at

colloquial The way in which one is thinking about something or dealing with something emotionally; one's mental or emotional status or condition. I just wish I knew where her head was at in relation to this whole situation, but she won't open up to me about anything. This all so sudden—I need a bit of time to get a sense of where my head is at before I make a decision.
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where someone’s head is at

in. the state of one’s mental well-being. As soon as I figure where my head is at, I’ll be okay.
See also: head