when all's (is) said and done
when all is said and done
When everything is finished or resolved. Yes, my sister's attempts to commandeer my party have been maddening, but when all is said and done, we'll reconcile—we always do.
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when all's (is) said and done
In the end, nevertheless. This cumbersome locution dates from the sixteenth century. The OED cites Thomas Ingelend in The Disobedient Child (1560): “When all is saide and all is done, Concernynge all thynges both more and lesse.”
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