tear your hair out
tear (one's) hair out
To be extremely anxious, worried, frustrated, or stressed out about something. We've been tearing our hair out trying to figure out what's causing the server outages. The kids have been out of control all morning long—they've got me tearing my hair out!
tear your hair outact with or show extreme desperation. informal
1991 Jill Churchill A Farewell to Yarns Someplace people were having nervous breakdowns and tearing their hair out in a desperate effort to please Phyllis.