spare (one's) feelings

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spare (one's) feelings

To restrain from doing something that might cause someone embarrassment, discomfort, or anxiety. The teacher decided to spare my feelings and didn't tell the class who scored the lowest mark on the test. Instead of saying I didn't like her personality, I tried to spare her feelings and said that I wasn't really ready to start dating again yet.
See also: feeling, spare
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spare somebody’s ˈfeelings

be careful to avoid offending or upsetting somebody: Eric got no votes at all, but we didn’t tell him because we wanted to spare his feelings.She didn’t spare my feelings at all — she told me exactly why she didn’t like me.
See also: feeling, spare
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It was their duty in the way of business, to take you in execution for them costs; but they were anxious to spare your feelings as much as they could.
It's not deceit, it's simply that for now, she prefers to protect her privacy, and perhaps she wants to spare your feelings.
As well as being a coward, he seems heartless if he hasn't tried to spare your feelings. You may not think so now but, in time, you'll be glad he's out of your life as you deserve better.
Yes, it was uncool for him not to come straight out and tell you what was going on but he genuinely may have wanted to spare your feelings until he was sure what was happening.
If she keeps putting wedding plans off and is reluctant to tell people maybe you need to have a talk to find out if it's what she really wants and she wasn't saying yes to spare your feelings.
Capricorn Dec 22 - Jan 20 EVEN if someone was dishonest with you to supposedly spare your feelings, the fact is they have been deceitful.
The reason you've been kept in the dark is because your son was trying to spare your feelings.
And maybe they did get together sooner than they let on, but perhaps that was to spare your feelings.
And maybe they did get together sooner than they let on but perhaps that was to spare your feelings.
They were probably trying to spare your feelings from concern for you, not callousness, which is a good reason to accept their invitations to go out.
If he loves you and he knows you feel self-conscious and may have been trying to spare your feelings.
For example, a loved one may want to spare your feelings or avoid the appearance of being ungrateful and so say they like a gift, when they really don't.
Perhaps she was trying to spare your feelings, but she ought to have been upfront and it would have saved all this angst and text messaging.