spare (one's) feelings

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spare (one's) feelings

To restrain from doing something that might cause someone embarrassment, discomfort, or anxiety. The teacher decided to spare my feelings and didn't tell the class who scored the lowest mark on the test. Instead of saying I didn't like her personality, I tried to spare her feelings and said that I wasn't really ready to start dating again yet.
See also: feeling, spare

spare somebody’s ˈfeelings

be careful to avoid offending or upsetting somebody: Eric got no votes at all, but we didn’t tell him because we wanted to spare his feelings.She didn’t spare my feelings at all — she told me exactly why she didn’t like me.
See also: feeling, spare
References in classic literature ?
I wanted to spare her feelings, just as I would have been anxious to save from any contact with mud the feet of that goatherd of the mountains with a symbolic face.
For all that the movie tackles a very sensitive and serious topic that many still consider taboo, it includes scenes full of suspense and lightness, with comedic moments about how Koichi's uncle, father and sister kept lying to Mother, to spare her feelings and, in the process twisting themselves into knots of emotional stress.
Will they award the teacher's terrible drawing first prize to spare her feelings? Will they nab the key to her cupboard?
Bev is horrified to discover her daughter slept with Charlie, but Shelley, trying to spare her feelings, said she just made it up to get at Tracy...
She WILL find out - trust me - from female instinct and mates acting strangely because they know and are trying to spare her feelings. And why do you want to get involved with a bloke who is a cheat?
YOUR COOL-YULE RULE If you and she are sister-tight, pretending to like the gift to spare her feelings will never fly.
Ross and Joey try to escape so they can go to a party with Janine's dancer pals, but they have to endure the worst dessert ever to spare her feelings.
Was he to marry her to spare her feelings? Are we saying here that any man who helps a girlfriend through sickness has an obligation to march up the aisle with her?
Even to the point of making the suicide look accidental for his mother's sake to spare her feelings.