softly, softly approach

softly, softly approach

A calm and thoughtful method for dealing with a problem. Primarily heard in UK, Australia. When dealing with unmotivated teens, the softly, softly approach doesn't always work—sometimes you have to do something to get their attention. Many parents use the softly, softly approach when trying to calm their toddlers' tantrums.
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softly-softly approach

An approach that is cautious, tentative, gradual, and careful, especially to an overbearing degree. (Also written "softly, softly.") I just wish his parents didn't always take the softly-softly approach with him. The kid needs to learn how to be a bit more brazen and independent! I think we should use the softly, softly approach at this stage in development.
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"Officers will be taking a softly, softly approach"
The softly, softly approach to criminals and their activities has not, nor was it ever really going to, worked.
He said: "For four years now the Irish Government has engaged in a softly, softly approach when dealing with the Egyptian government.
"But local businesses were keen to bring it back so we took a softly, softly approach last year in re-starting the event.
In games that carry such a high-risk tariff, you can normally expect a softly, softly approach, with neither side willing to overcommit or make an error that could cost them the game.
So I was kind of grateful for the softly, softly approach. I'd brought along an apple and pear juice carton to rehydrate afterwards but it wasn't really needed.
I am sick and tired of listening to do-gooders with their softly, softly approach. The law needs to come down hard on these people.
Speaking ahead of Manchester United's away match at West Ham on Saturday, Assistant Manager Mike Phelan said: " It's sort of a softly, softly approach with Owen.
Therefore, in my view Ruddock's softly, softly approach would have been the right one.
But the softly, softly approach saw 60 people come forward within a day of the reminders being sent out.
Despite substituting Ferdinand in Saturday's debacle at Boro, Ferguson has opted for the softly, softly approach.
Sir Clive Woodward's softly, softly approach to training is over.
TOTTENHAM'S lack of physical presence usually frustrates head coach Martin Jol, but against Blackburn he was, for once, glad of Spurs' softly, softly approach.
The police made it clear they would not be taking the softly, softly approach. But what gives these thugs the right to cause mayhem?
CAUTIOUS Colin McRae was taking the softly, softly approach today as he resumed his Monte Carlo Rally challenge.