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not know whether (one) is coming or going
To be in a state of confusion or chaos, especially due to being very busy or overwhelmed. Lisa has been so busy getting everything ready for the party, she doesn't know whether she's coming or going. I have so many appointments today, I don't know whether I'm coming or going anymore.
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not know whether one is coming or going and not know if one is coming or going
Fig. to be very confused. I'm so busy that I don't know if I'm coming or going. You look as if you don't know whether you're coming or going.
McGraw-Hill Dictionary of American Idioms and Phrasal Verbs. © 2002 by The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc.