leave (one) to stew in (one's) own juice(s)(redirected from leaves us to stew in our own juices)
leave (one) to stew in (one's) own juice(s)
To leave someone alone with their emotions, usually unpleasant ones like guilt, anger, or anxiety, without offering them comfort or closure on the matter. Kevin was in such a foul mood at dinner that I went home early and left him to stew in his own juice. After the kids broke the window, I left them to stew in their own juices for a while before laying into them about it. I can tell that the boss is upset with how my report turned out, but I think he's just leaving me to stew in my own juices before he brings it up.
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stew in one's own juice, left to
Abandoned to suffer the consequences of one’s own actions. Chaucer had a version of this expression in The Canterbury Tales (The Wife of Bath’s Tale): “In his own gress [grease] I made him frie for anger and for very jalousie.” A closer equivalent was Henry Carey’s version (Advertisements from Parnassus, 1656): “He could not better discover Hypocrites than by suffering them (like Oysters) to stew in their own water.” The exact modern wording dates from the second half of the nineteenth century.
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