He sounds like someone who is quite controlling and manipulative, keeping you dangling
and never sure of his feelings for you.
Guys pretend to be platonic friends because they want to graduate to something more later on; the naive ones may even fall for the old line: 'I like to get to know a guy as a friend before I get into a relationship.' This is a complete lie; a woman will either enter a relationship or she won't; if she's keeping you dangling
take it as a lesson learnt and move on.
He sees you as a friend with benefits and is keeping you dangling
on a thread with the vague possibility that he might want kids or marriage in future.
He is playing you - keeping you dangling
- and gets in touch when he's in the mood.
He's also controlling - drawing you in and making you feel special, then punishing you when you don't do what he wants and keeping you dangling
Is she worried her daughter, despite what you say, wouldn't approve, or does she like keeping you dangling
on a string?