go behind (one's) back

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go behind (one's) back

To do something in one's absence. The phrase typically suggests wrongdoing or deceit. I can't believe you went behind my back and gossiped about me! Tom will be upset that we've gone behind his back and made the decision.
See also: back, behind, go

go behind someone's back

 
1. Lit. to move behind someone; to locate oneself at someone's back. The mugger went behind my back and put a gun to my spine. Bob went behind my back and pushed me through the opening.
2. Fig. to do something that is kept a secret from someone affected by it. I hate to go behind her back, but she makes so much trouble about things like this. Please don't try to go behind my back again!
See also: back, behind, go

go behind someone's back

If someone goes behind your back, they do something secretly or without your permission. Leonard, you haven't been completely open with me. You think I wouldn't know when you go behind my back? They go behind our backs, they withhold information, they talk down to us like idiots. Compare with do something behind someone's back.
See also: back, behind, go
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When I ask her what she does with the money, she says she contributes it to the church as tithe since I don't usually do it.I know it is right for Christians to pay tithe but I feel it's wrong for her to go behind my back and when I confront her about this, she quotes for me Malachi chapter three verse 10 to 12.For me, transparency and openness in a marriage is key but she always tells me that the right hand should not know what the left one is holding while tithing.
I don't understand why he had to go behind my back. If he wanted to be friends with her I'd rather he did it out in the open because at least then I'd be able to keep an eye on what was going on.
I couldn't work for a board that was prepared to go behind my back. You can't have a working relationship if you don't trust the people you work for."
Now, I don't tell her who I like because she'll go behind my back and date him."
"I will look anyone in the eye but to go behind my back and do something like this on the basis of not being selected in Derry is not on."
"If he has anything to say he should say it to my face rather than go behind my back. He is way out of order and I feel I have been let down.
One of the problems I had in government was the way Tony would go behind my back and deal with something in my area of responsibility without letting me know.