find it in one's heart

find it in (one's) heart to (do something)

To be able to convince oneself do something despite one's reluctance. I know I hurt you, but I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me.
See also: find, heart

find it in one's heart

Persuade oneself to do something, as in They were an hour late, but I couldn't find it in my heart to scold them. This expression, today generally put in the negative, alludes to searching self-examination. [Mid-1400s]
See also: find, heart

find it in one's heart, (not) to

To be inclined to do something; or to be unwilling to do something. This expression implies that a person is doing considerable soul-searching concerning an action, and as a cliché it may be obsolescent. It first appeared in the sixteenth century, in Sir Thomas More’s Utopia: “They cannot find in their hearts to love the author thereof.” It also appears in the King James Bible (1611) in the second Book of Samuel (7:27): “Therefore hath thy servant found in his heart to pray this prayer unto thee.”
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