find it in (one's) heart to (do something)

find it in (one's) heart to (do something)

To be able to convince oneself do something despite one's reluctance. I know I hurt you, but I hope you can find it in your heart to forgive me.
See also: find, heart

find it in one's heart

Persuade oneself to do something, as in They were an hour late, but I couldn't find it in my heart to scold them. This expression, today generally put in the negative, alludes to searching self-examination. [Mid-1400s]
See also: find, heart

find it in your heart to do something

allow or force yourself to do something.
1988 Richard Rayner Los Angeles Without a Map Could you find it in your heart to lend me, say, $2,500?
See also: find, heart, something

(not) find it in your heart to ˈdo something

(also (not) find it ˈin yourself to do something) (literary) (not) be able to persuade yourself to do something: I wish you could find it in your heart to forgive her.I can’t find it in myself to criticize her work after she’s tried so hard.
See also: find, heart, something