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don't ask

A phrase said when one doesn't want someone to inquire about something. A: "Whoa, what happened in here?" B: "Ugh, don't ask."
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don't ask

A phrase used to fend off questions about a situation one finds awkward, unpleasant, or unsatisfactory. For example, How did we do in the bridge tournament? Don't ask! [Colloquial; 1960s] For a similar phrase, see forget it.
See also: ask

ˌdon’t ˈask

(spoken, informal) if you say don’t ask to somebody, you mean that you do not want to reply to their question, because it would be awkward, embarrassing, etc: ‘How was your trip?’ ‘Don’t ask! It was a disaster!’
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Don’t ask

sent. The answer is so depressing, you don’t even want to hear it. This has been a horrible day. How horrible, you say? Don’t ask.
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don't ask

You don’t want to hear bad news, a long story, or something unpleasant or embarrassing. This slangy phrase, used since the 1960s and only in conversation, may be a response to a direct question, such as “How did you do on the exam?” or used to impart information, as in “Ask me how much we have left in the bank.”—“How much?”—“Don’t ask.” It differs from don’t ask me, said with the emphasis on me, which is a casual and somewhat impolite reply that means “I don’t know” (as in “‘When does the restaurant open?’— ‘Don’t ask me.’” A newer variation is don’t ask, don’t tell, which in the early 1990s began to designate a policy on homosexuality adopted by the U.S. military in 1994. Under this policy, personnel are not asked about their sexual orientation, and homosexuals are allowed to serve provided they do not openly reveal their orientation. This usage quickly spread to other contexts, as in “Our veterinarian has a “ ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ ” policy about what happens to pets who must be put away.” Another variant is don’t go there, an indication that someone should avoid a topic. For example, in a congressional hearing about the war in Iraq, a representative interviewing Colin Powell suggested his war record was better than that of a president who may have been AWOL, whereupon Powell replied, “Let’s not go there in this hearing” (cited by Leslie Savan in her slang dictionary).
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References in classic literature ?
Pray don't ask me why, pray don't be sorry, pray don't be vexed with me
venture on delicate ground, madam, don't ask me to accompany you.
I don't ask that," pleaded Jekyll, laying his hand upon the other's arm; "I only ask for justice; I only ask you to help him for my sake, when I am no longer here.
I don't ask for your love--I will be content with your affection and regard.
Affery immediately replied, 'For goodness sake don't ask me nothing, Arthur
I'm willing to be your financial manager, Tom Swift, but please don't ask me to be a high-brow.
Tom groaned out: "Oh, I don't know; don't ask me such awful questions.
Please take it," says I, "and don't ask me noth- ing -- then I won't have to tell no lies.
I don't ask you whether she is handsome or no; perhaps she is not; that's nothing to the purpose; but do you know of any lady?
No matter what it means, don't ask, don't speak, don't think about it.
Cheese, Kenny, Ducky (DON'T ASK), Meemo (AGAIN, DON'T ASK), Penzie (Seriously, just don't ask about any of these), and Meemo-Penzie.
Don't Ask" was recently released from Prizm Books -- a subsidiary of Torquere Press -- and centers around Mike, a gay high school student who's involved in his school's military club during the repeal of Don't Ask, Don't Tell.
Then, of course, there's Harvey Milk, the first openly gay politician (and, just for bonus points, before moving to San Francisco campaigned for Barry Goldwater, an Episcopalian of Jewish heritage who would later attack passage of Don't Ask, Don't Tell).
I am not referring to all of the roughly 13,000 men and women whose service to their nation was rejected over the 18 years of don't ask, don't tell.
On 22 December 2010, President Obama signed the Don't Ask Don't Tell Repeal Act of 2010.