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damned if (one) does and damned if (one) doesn't
Said when one is faced with two undesirable options. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't—if I confess that I broke the vase, then my parents will be mad, and if I don't, then I'll feel guilty about it. A: "Katie found out that I also asked Colleen to prom. Should I come clean with her?" B: "Man, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't!"
damned if you do and damned if you don't
Every possible action (or inaction) would result in a negative outcome or cause you trouble; there is no course of action that does not have a drawback. So your boss will be mad if you miss the work event, and your husband will be disappointed if you skip your anniversary dinner. Yep, you're damned if do and damned if you don't!
damned if you do and damned if you don'tin some situations whatever you do is likely to attract criticism.
1998 Spectator Some of the media were critical of the photo…That did not stop them all running it on the front page. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't.