butter up to (one)(redirected from butter up to them)
butter up to (one)
To charm or be nice to one, as with flattery or other means, especially before delivering bad news or asking for a favor. I tried to butter up to my father by mowing the lawn before I asked to borrow the car. At least butter up to me before you ask for money.
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