burn your bridges

burn (one's) bridges

1. Literally, to destroy a bridge or path behind oneself, so that others cannot follow. This usage is often related to military action. When the troops retreated from the area, they were sure to burn their bridges behind them.
2. To do something that cannot be easily undone or reversed in the future (often because one has behaved offensively or unfavorably). I think you really burned your bridges when you announced you were quitting and proceeded to insult your boss in front of the whole staff. She's young, so I don't think she realizes that she'll be burning her bridges if she goes to work for their competitor.
See also: bridge, burn

burn your bridges

If you burn your bridges, you do something which forces you to continue with a particular course of action, and makes it impossible for you to return to an earlier situation. I didn't sell my house because I didn't know how long I would be here. I didn't want to burn all my bridges. She had burned her bridges behind her; she had called Mimi to tell her she couldn't take the job at the Foundation and she had accepted another job offer. Note: In British English, you can also say that you burn your boats. She decided to go to Glasgow to study for a degree in astronomy. Then, just before she started, she thought she might be burning her boats and so she did physics after all. Note: During invasions, Roman generals sometimes burned their boats or any bridges they had crossed, so that their soldiers could not retreat but were forced to fight on.
See also: bridge, burn

burn your ˈbridges

(British English also burn your ˈboats) do something that makes it impossible for you to return to a previous situation: Once you sign this document, you’ll have burned your boats, and will have to go ahead with the sale. OPPOSITE: keep/leave (all) your options open
See also: bridge, burn
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Do not burn your bridges behind you because we are leading to one world.
Finally, don't burn your bridges If, in spite of your best efforts, you haven't been able to successfully negotiate the pay rise you wanted, you may decide you feel undervalued by your employer.
"Maybe, you don't want to burn your bridges," was his response to that prospect.
"Never burn your bridges" is a phrase in English, which the people of Lucerne disagree with so much that they set out to prove its falsehood in 1993, when they burnt down the Kapellbrucke (Chapel Bridge).
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You never know what the future holds, so don't burn your bridges.
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Don't burn your bridges. You never know when you're going to need someone you've just teed off.
Among the terms it explains are "burn your bridges" which goes back to Roman generals who burnt bridges their soldiers crossed so they couldn't retreat.
But don't burn your bridges and always remember that a guy who can cheat on one woman won't find it too hard to cheat on another.
You have to burn your bridges. In most of the Marianist groups there are different levels of commitment.
Burn your bridges. "To move forward, burn your bridges behind you so you can't go backward," suggests Mercer.
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And so you don't burn your bridges." There's a vast degree of difference between golf games and criminal sexual harassment, but the continuum is real.