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a notch in (someone's) bedpost
A casual sexual partner, especially a one-night stand, counted as a tally in the overall number of someone's sexual partners. Janet was never interested in a serious boyfriend during college; she was only looking for notches in her bedpost. So is that all I am to you, John? A notch in your bedpost?
a notch on (someone's) bedpost
A casual sexual partner, especially a one-night stand, counted as a tally in the overall number of someone's sexual partners. Janet was never interested in a serious boyfriend during college; she was only looking for notches on her bedpost. So is that all I am to you, John? A notch on your bedpost?
between you, (and) me, and the bedpost
What is going to be or has been said should not be told to anyone else. This phrase is usually said along with information that needs to be kept secret. I overheard the boss talking to her secretary last night and—just between you, me, and the bedpost—she's giving the promotion to George after all. Between you and me and the bedpost, Stephanie is not as qualified for this job as she claims to be.
between you, me, and the lamppost
In complete confidence between the speaker and the listener, as of a forthcoming secret or rumor. Now, this is between you, me, and the lamppost, but I'm thinking about filing for divorce. Between you, me, and the lamppost, I hear that they're going to lay off half the staff by the end of the week.
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between you (and) me and the bedpostand between you and me and these four walls
Fig. a somewhat affected way of signaling that you are about to tell a secret. Alan: What's wrong with Ellen these days? She seems so touchy. Jane: Between you and me and the bedpost, I've heard that her boyfriend is seeing someone else. Jill: How much did you get for your used car? Jane: Well—between you and me and these four walls—five thousand dollars.
McGraw-Hill Dictionary of American Idioms and Phrasal Verbs. © 2002 by The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc.
between you and me
Also, between ourselves; just between you and me and the bedpost or four walls or gatepost or lamppost . In strict confidence. For example, Just between you and me, it was Janet who proposed to Bill rather than vice versa. This phrase, dating from about 1300, is generally followed by some informative statement that the listener is being asked to keep secret. The variant with bedpost, also shortened to post, dates from the early 1800s; four walls, also shortened to the wall, dates from the early 1900s, as does the gatepost.
The American Heritage® Dictionary of Idioms by Christine Ammer. Copyright © 2003, 1997 by The Christine Ammer 1992 Trust. Published by Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company. All rights reserved.
between you, me and the bedpostor
between you, me and the gatepost
If you say that something you say is between you, me and the bedpost or between you, me and the gatepost, you mean that the person you are talking to should not tell anyone else what you have said. Between you, me and the bedpost, I'd say he was completely confused. Between you, me and the gatepost, he'd be better off without her. Note: People also sometimes use fencepost instead of bedpost. That's my opinion, between you, me and the fencepost.
Collins COBUILD Idioms Dictionary, 3rd ed. © HarperCollins Publishers 2012
between you and me and the bedpost (or the gatepost or the wall)in strict confidence. informal
The bedpost , gatepost , or wall is seen as marking the boundary beyond which the confidence must not go.
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between you, me, and the lamppostand between you, me, and the bedpost
phr. just between you and me. Between you, me, and the lamppost, things are going to get worse before they get better. It’s supposed to be a secret, but between you, me, and the bedpost, he quit his job.
between you, me, and the bedpostverb
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between you and me and the bedpost/gatepost/four walls/lamppost
In strictest confidence. This elaboration of just between you and me is often followed by gossip about someone else. The bedpost version dates from the early nineteenth century and was used by Edward Bulwer-Lytton (Eugene Aram, 1832: “Between you and me and the bedpost, young master has quarrelled with old master”), Dickens, and others. The lamppost version may be a little older, but is not much heard anymore.
The Dictionary of Clichés by Christine Ammer Copyright © 2013 by Christine Ammer