be tearing your hair out
be tearing (one's) hair out
To be extremely anxious, worried, frustrated, or stressed out about something. We've been tearing our hair out trying to figure out what's causing the server outages. The kids have been out of control all morning long—they've got me tearing my hair out!
be tearing your hair outor
be pulling your hair out
If you are tearing your hair out or pulling your hair out, you are very angry, upset, or anxious about something. The nation is tearing its hair out over what to do with these child criminals. They must have been pulling their hair out by the time they reached home. Note: You can also say that someone is tearing their hair. The whole situation had him tearing his hair in frustration.