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be torn between

To be or feel equally compelled to choose between two different people, things, or actions. I'm torn between the red dress and the blue one—which do you think looks better on me? John was torn between his loyalty to his friend and knowing he needed to report the crime to the police. I know Sarah's been torn between going to college in-state to save money and studying abroad to have more of an adventure.
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torn between, be

Be distracted by two conflicting choices, be in a dilemma, as in I'm torn between going to the mountains or going to the seashore; each appeals to me . This idiom was first recorded in 1871.
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The American Heritage® Dictionary of Idioms by Christine Ammer. Copyright © 2003, 1997 by The Christine Ammer 1992 Trust. Published by Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company. All rights reserved.
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I am torn between staying on and leaving this job, if only to save my reputation.
The children are sitting their national reading and numeracy tests at the start of next month and I am torn between not piling on the pressure on one hand, and making sure that they do enough practice and revision to be sure they give it their best shot on the other.
I am torn between acknowledging that in L'Oreal's campaign there is a value for people who don't see themselves represented in the mainstream media, and worrying that we have come to a point where edginess becomes the whole point - where Muslimness becomes collapsed into an image of an over-filtered, hot, bourgeois, fair-skinned hijabi woman, whose highlighter is "on fleek" .
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I am torn between throwing my old notebooks away someday or donating these to a library because they may hold something useful for another researcher by way of a bibliographic reference, an insight, text copied from some hard-to-find source, sometimes even the rude doodles I do when idle or bored.
My girlfriend is highly offended that I would consider this, and I am torn between attending the memorial and offending my girlfriend.
Personally I am torn between "leave" or "stay" options.
Now I am torn between hoping that many more drivers infringe the bus gates and are charged, and hoping that they don't so the town centre is truly public transport, pedestrian and cycle friendly and less polluted.
I know that I will bring a pair of socks (or two or three) to knit, but I am torn between bringing a secondary travel project or picking up some scrumptious Irish yarn to make something while I am there.
I am torn between appreciating the relevant artwork and messages, and understanding why the wall might also do well to be left alone to its truth.
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However, I am torn between moving back there and being able to see my children.
After responding to this query for more than a decade, I am torn between bewilderment and grief: bewilderment at the willful ignorance required to miss the thousands of official Muslim statements, opinion editorials, and formal religious edicts denouncing terrorism that have been issued regularly since the horrendous attacks of 9/11; grief at the prejudice that makes these pronouncements necessary.
I am torn between thinking that this is really none of my business, and thinking that two people of the samesex wanting to marry each other is none of her business either.
"I am torn between the need to explain the truth and the desire not to worry the Pope," Tedeschi said.