you can't lose what you never had
proverb You should not be angry, anxious, or upset about the loss of something if it was only ever a wish, ideal, or hypothetical concept to begin with. A: "Doesn't it make you angry that the company keeps control over the thing you wrote?" B: "Not really. It's always been this way. You can't lose what you never had." I don't know why you're so worried that doing this will make you seem uncool or unpopular. You can't lose what you never had, after all! A: "Hey, I'm sorry to hear your blind date stood you up." B: "Ah, it's OK. You can't lose what you never had."
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