listeners never hear any good of themselves

listeners never hear any good of themselves

proverb If people are talking about one when one is absent, they probably aren't saying nice things. They may be talking about you, but I don't think you should hover at the door like that—remember, listeners never hear any good of themselves.
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'Why, they say,' returned his wife, 'that listeners never hear any good of themselves; though you--but pray how long have you been here, sir?'