it's not you, it's me(redirected from It's not you, it's me.)
it's not you, it's me
cliché You are not the reason our romantic relationship is ending, the problem is with me. Typically assumed to be a disingenuous, trite, or patronizing explanation for a romantic breakup, the phrase is often used sarcastically or humorously as a result. A: "But I thought you were happy with me. I don't want to end things!" B: "Oh, sweet Tom, it's not you, it's me! I'm just not emotionally ready for a committed relationship." Yeah, he tried to give me the old "it's not you, it's me" routine during the breakup, till I finally got him to admit that he was seeing someone else.
See also: not
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