I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't

damned if I do and damned if I don't

Every possible action (or inaction) would result in a negative outcome or cause me trouble; there is no course of action that does not have a drawback. My boss will be mad if I miss the work event, and my husband will be disappointed if I skip my anniversary dinner. Yep, I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't!
See also: and, damned, if

I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.

Fig. There are problems if I do something and problems if I don't do it. I can't win. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. No matter whether I go or stay, I am in trouble. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.
See also: and, damned, if