spare (one's) feelings

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spare (one's) feelings

To restrain from doing something that might cause someone embarrassment, discomfort, or anxiety. The teacher decided to spare my feelings and didn't tell the class who scored the lowest mark on the test. Instead of saying I didn't like her personality, I tried to spare her feelings and said that I wasn't really ready to start dating again yet.
See also: feeling, spare

spare somebody’s ˈfeelings

be careful to avoid offending or upsetting somebody: Eric got no votes at all, but we didn’t tell him because we wanted to spare his feelings.She didn’t spare my feelings at all — she told me exactly why she didn’t like me.
See also: feeling, spare
References in classic literature ?
He answered, that which is unexpected, which comes suddenly and unforeseen; and though he answered like a pagan, and one without the knowledge of the true God, yet, as far as sparing our feelings is concerned, he was right; for suppose you are killed in the first engagement or skirmish, whether by a cannon ball or blown up by mine, what matters it?