spare (one's) feelings

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spare (one's) feelings

To restrain from doing something that might cause someone embarrassment, discomfort, or anxiety. The teacher decided to spare my feelings and didn't tell the class who scored the lowest mark on the test. Instead of saying I didn't like her personality, I tried to spare her feelings and said that I wasn't really ready to start dating again yet.
See also: feeling, spare

spare somebody’s ˈfeelings

be careful to avoid offending or upsetting somebody: Eric got no votes at all, but we didn’t tell him because we wanted to spare his feelings.She didn’t spare my feelings at all — she told me exactly why she didn’t like me.
See also: feeling, spare
References in classic literature ?
Do not attempt to spare my feelings," returned Cronshaw, with a wave of his fat hand.
In the extreme neatness and cleanliness beneath which she had striven to hid her poverty I read all the terrible sufferings of her life; she was nobly reticent about them in her effort to spare my feelings, and only alluded to them after I had solemnly promised to adopt our child.
He doesn't even spare my feelings when he thinks I've done it for real: 'You look like your mum.
Even so, they skip before its rasping advance to spare my feelings, before leaping into the hutch with all the insouciance of the young.
I can only assume he did not tell me about the charge to spare my feelings.
I don't want people to hold their tongues because they are trying to spare my feelings for having a white mother,'' he said.