spare (one's) feelings

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spare (one's) feelings

To restrain from doing something that might cause someone embarrassment, discomfort, or anxiety. The teacher decided to spare my feelings and didn't tell the class who scored the lowest mark on the test. Instead of saying I didn't like her personality, I tried to spare her feelings and said that I wasn't really ready to start dating again yet.
See also: feeling, spare

spare somebody’s ˈfeelings

be careful to avoid offending or upsetting somebody: Eric got no votes at all, but we didn’t tell him because we wanted to spare his feelings.She didn’t spare my feelings at all — she told me exactly why she didn’t like me.
See also: feeling, spare
References in classic literature ?
I wanted to spare her feelings, just as I would have been anxious to save from any contact with mud the feet of that goatherd of the mountains with a symbolic face.
Bev is horrified to discover her daughter slept with Charlie, but Shelley, trying to spare her feelings, said she just made it up to get at Tracy.
She WILL find out - trust me - from female instinct and mates acting strangely because they know and are trying to spare her feelings.
YOUR COOL-YULE RULE If you and she are sister-tight, pretending to like the gift to spare her feelings will never fly.
Ross and Joey try to escape so they can go to a party with Janine's dancer pals, but they have to endure the worst dessert ever to spare her feelings.
Even to the point of making the suicide look accidental for his mother's sake to spare her feelings.