spare (one's) feelings

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spare (one's) feelings

To restrain from doing something that might cause someone embarrassment, discomfort, or anxiety. The teacher decided to spare my feelings and didn't tell the class who scored the lowest mark on the test. Instead of saying I didn't like her personality, I tried to spare her feelings and said that I wasn't really ready to start dating again yet.
See also: feeling, spare

spare somebody’s ˈfeelings

be careful to avoid offending or upsetting somebody: Eric got no votes at all, but we didn’t tell him because we wanted to spare his feelings.She didn’t spare my feelings at all — she told me exactly why she didn’t like me.
See also: feeling, spare
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The end of the episode was a break-up where the Doctor and Clara told white lies to the other to spare feelings, to allow them, they think, to get on with the lives without any guilt about the other.
Women tend to lie to spare feelings and make others feel better, and they pretend to be what they used to be in the past.
What about white lies intended to spare feelings or allay the suspicions of a doubting wife?
To pick a cast all names should go in a hat to spare feelings.
We're talking about the harmless little fibs that spare feelings, boost self-esteem and help smooth the rough spots of important relationships and romances.