softly, softly approach

softly, softly approach

A calm and thoughtful method for dealing with a problem. Primarily heard in UK, Australia. When dealing with unmotivated teens, the softly, softly approach doesn't always work—sometimes you have to do something to get their attention. Many parents use the softly, softly approach when trying to calm their toddlers' tantrums.
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softly-softly approach

An approach that is cautious, tentative, gradual, and careful, especially to an overbearing degree. (Also written "softly, softly.") I just wish his parents didn't always take the softly-softly approach with him. The kid needs to learn how to be a bit more brazen and independent! I think we should use the softly, softly approach at this stage in development.
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He said: "For four years now the Irish Government has engaged in a softly, softly approach when dealing with the Egyptian government.
But local businesses were keen to bring it back so we took a softly, softly approach last year in re-starting the event.
In games that carry such a high-risk tariff, you can normally expect a softly, softly approach, with neither side willing to overcommit or make an error that could cost them the game.
So I was kind of grateful for the softly, softly approach.
I am sick and tired of listening to do-gooders with their softly, softly approach.
Speaking ahead of Manchester United's away match at West Ham on Saturday, Assistant Manager Mike Phelan said: " It's sort of a softly, softly approach with Owen.
But O'Neill will adopt a softly, softly approach when it comes to trying to persuade Barry to sign a new deal - a topic that was on the agenda before the 27-year-old made it clear last May he wanted to move to Anfield.
Labour and Tory MSPs interpreted the mumbo jumbo as a move towards a more softly, softly approach.
I know alcoholics need support and regular meetings but this kid-glove, softly, softly approach was abused by Foye in a most catastrophic way.
Therefore, in my view Ruddock's softly, softly approach would have been the right one.
A Whitehall aide said: "The tide seems to be turning against cannabis and the softly, softly approach to its possession.
Sir Clive Woodward's softly, softly approach to training is over.
TOTTENHAM'S lack of physical presence usually frustrates head coach Martin Jol, but against Blackburn he was, for once, glad of Spurs' softly, softly approach.
Station Officer Danny Moynihan said: "We had to take a very softly, softly approach because the paramedics were worried about possible back injuries.