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a shame

An unfortunate situation. The term is used either in consolation or ironically. I heard that things didn't work out between you two, that's a real shame. You only have two yachts after the third one sunk? Aw, what a shame!
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name and shame

1. verb phrase To publicly name or otherwise identify a person, group, or organization that is guilty of some criminal or anti-social act so as to expose him, her, or them to public shame. The federal agency's plan—to name and shame local criminals across the country with a published list of their names and convictions—is being branded by some advocacy groups as a violation of privacy.
2. noun phrase The act of exposing a culpable person, group, or organization to public shame. Look, I'm just as upset as anyone, but I'm not willing to take part in some name and shame against everyone in the neighborhood!
See also: and, name, shame

crying shame

Fig. a very unfortunate situation; a real shame. It's a crying shame that people cannot afford adequate housing. That your father could not attend graduation was a crying shame.
See also: crying, shame

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

Prov. After being tricked once, one should be wary, so that the person cannot trick you again. Fred: Would you like a can of peanuts? Jane: The last can of peanuts you gave me had a toy snake in it. Fred: This one really is peanuts. Jane: Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.
See also: fool, on, shame

For shame!

That is shameful! Sue: Did you hear that Tom was in jail? Fred: For shame! What did he do? Sue: Nobody knows. Mary: I've decided not to go to the conference. John: For shame! Who will represent us?

hide one's face in shame

Fig. to cover one's face because of shame or embarrassment. Mary was so embarrassed. She could only hide her face in shame. When Tom broke Ann's crystal vase, he wanted to hide his face in shame.
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put someone to shame

 
1. to embarrass someone; to make someone ashamed. I put him to shame by telling everyone about his bad behavior.
2. to show someone up. Your excellent efforts put us all to shame.
See also: put, shame

shame of it (all)

That is so shameful!; I am so embarrassed; I am shocked. (Considerable use jocularly or as a parody. Compare this with For shame!) John: Good grief! I have a pimple! Always, just before a date. Andy: The shame of it all! Tom: John claims that he cheated on his taxes. Bill: Golly! The shame of it!
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shame on you

a phrase scolding someone for being naughty. (*Typically said to a child or to an adult for a childish infraction.) John: I think I broke one of your figurines. Mary: Shame on you! John: I'll replace it, of course. Mary: Thanks, I sort of liked it. "Shame on you!" said Mary. "You should have known better!"
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Tell the truth and shame the devil.

Prov. to tell the truth even though you have strong reasons for concealing it. Jill: Have you been using my computer without asking permission? Jane: Uh... no.... Jill: Come on, Jane, tell the truth and shame the devil.
See also: and, devil, shame, tell, truth

What a pity!

 and What a shame!
Fig. an expression of consolation meaning That's too bad. (Can also be used sarcastically.) Bill: I'm sorry to tell you that the cat died today. Mary: What a pity! Mary: The cake is ruined! Sally: What a shame!
See also: what

it's a crying shame

(spoken)
it is a great misfortune It's a crying shame when someone has worked hard and then loses everything because of someone else's dishonesty.
See also: crying, shame

put somebody to shame

to cause someone to be embarrassed I thought I was in pretty good shape for hiking, but Astrid, who is in her 70s, put me to shame.
See also: put, shame

shame on you

(spoken)
you should feel embarrassed by something you have done Protesters chanted “shame on you” at the university's president. Shame on me for not checking the schedule and getting there half an hour late.
See also: on, shame

It's a crying shame!

something that you say when you think a situation is wrong (often + that ) It's a crying shame that she only gets one month's maternity leave.
See also: crying

crying shame, a

An unfortunate situation, as in It's a crying shame that Bob can't find a job. This term may well come from the now obsolete to cry shame upon, meaning "express vigorous disapproval or censure," current from about 1600 to the mid-1800s.
See also: crying

for shame

Also, shame on you. An expression that condemns someone for being dishonorable or disgraceful. For example, " For shame," said Carol to the puppy, "You shouldn't have done that," or "Shame on you for cheating," the teacher said. [c. 1300]
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put to shame

Outdo, eclipse, as in Jane's immaculate kitchen puts mine to shame. This idiom modifies the literal sense of put to shame, that is, "disgrace someone," to the much milder "cause to feel inferior." [Mid-1800s]
See also: put, shame

shame on you

see under for shame.
See also: on, shame

put to shame

1. To cause to feel shame.
2. To outdo thoroughly; surpass: Your kindness has put the rest of us to shame.
See also: put, shame

sense of shame

An understanding and respect for propriety and morality.
See also: of, sense, shame
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As public shaming sanctions continue to be issued, one begins to wonder where they will go next.
Tarnopolsky's study understands Socrates' elenchus as wielding a 'Socratic respectful shame' that respects the truth to the extreme extent that it is inadequately charitable to its victims, bullying them into perplexity out of a refusal to stoop to a flattering rhetoric (such as Gorgias teaches) and exposing their deficiencies and failings, without providing them with a full understanding of the standards by which the have been judged to fail, or alternative understandings of the contradictions of their lives to help them move forward from the shaming in a salutary way.
Relying on a practice of shaming lessens the necessity for a regulatory-legal framework to weed out bad business practice, and it can be a far less costly way to regulate a society, impose sanctions, and articulate and reinforce norms.
Although subsidies for latrine construction were available to residents below India's poverty line in all 40 villages, latrine ownership only rose in those undergoing shaming, according to the surveys.
By naming and shaming the kids we are naming and shaming the parents and I'm all for that.
With shaming penalties increasing in recent years and the possible normalization of shaming looming on the horizon, it is a bit surprising that virtually all of the academic activity in shaming has focused on the criminals.
Experiments in Restorative Policing: A Progress Report on the Reintegrative Shaming Experiments, Canberra: ANU Research School of Social Sciences, 1998.
People who expressed anything but approval of sexual adventurism would be stigmatized: shamed for engaging in the oppressive act of shaming.
The close synchronicity of the architectural shaming of Florence, the founding of the palace, and Corso's (initial) peak of influence in civic affairs is unlikely to have been fortuitous, given all the factors that I have considered, which would now include an ambitious, charismatic political leader high, if not supreme, among Florentines in his hypersensitivity and reactivity to questions of honor (and also the fact that Corso had been podesta in Bologna, one of the key cities involved in the diplomatic celebration of December 29).
Naming and shaming has a rather quaint ring to it - with all the connotations of stocks on the village green and rotten vegetables to be flung at the hapless offenders.
In particular, every punishment can involve some element of shaming.
At least two appellate courts have upheld isolated shaming penalties.
The fact that Anna Lo is now considering leaving Northern Ireland due to racism, that's shaming - but shame isn't enough.
The phenomenological experience is negative; anger is directed outward, perhaps toward the source of the shaming event.
Brooks Bouson employs psychological and psychoanalytic theories of trauma and shame to understand how Toni Morrison's novels stage scenes of racial violence and shaming in order to "aestheticize--and thus to gain narrative mastery over and artistically repair--the racial shame and trauma she describes.