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drown in self-pity

To be entirely consumed by sorrow, self-deprecation, or other negative emotions to the point of self-indulgence and/or paralysis. It's hard to help someone who would rather drown in self-pity than find a solution to their problems.
See also: drown

for pity's sake

A mild oath of surprise, exasperation, annoyance, frustration, or anger. For pity's sake! I haven't seen you in years! Would you let me finish my story, for pity's sake? Oh for pity's sake, I just had the car fixed and now you've put a dent in it!
See also: sake

For Pete's sake!

 and For pity's sake!; For the love of Mike!; For goodness sake!; For gosh sake!; For heaven('s) sake!
a mild exclamation of surprise or shock. For Pete's sake! How've ya been? For pity's sake! Ask the man in out of the cold!

have pity on someone (or an animal)

to have compassion toward someone or an animal. Please! Have pity on us. Let us come in!
See also: have, on, pity

more's the pity

Fig. it is a great pity or shame; it is sad. (Sometimes with the.) Jack can't come, more's the pity. Jane had to leave early, more's the pity.
See also: pity

take pity (on someone or an animal)

to feel sorry for someone or an animal. We took pity on the hungry people and gave them some hot food. She took pity on the little dog and brought it in to get warm.
See also: pity, take

What a pity!

 and What a shame!
Fig. an expression of consolation meaning That's too bad. (Can also be used sarcastically.) Bill: I'm sorry to tell you that the cat died today. Mary: What a pity! Mary: The cake is ruined! Sally: What a shame!

for Pete's sake

I am annoyed or surprised by this for goodness' sake She has a huge salary and gets a bonus, too - how much money does she need, for Pete's sake?
Usage notes: used for emphasis and often used instead of the more offensive idioms for God's sake and for Christ's sake
Related vocabulary: for crying out loud
See also: sake

have pity on somebody

to do something out of sympathy that will help someone An old man begged the soldiers to have pity on him and let him go.
See also: have, on, pity

take pity on somebody

to do something because you feel sympathy for someone She stood there shivering until Claudia took pity on her and put her sweater around the child's shoulders.
See also: on, pity, take

for Pete's sake

Also, for pity's sake. See for the sake of, def. 3.
See also: sake

for the sake of

1. Also for one's sake. Out of consideration or regard for a person or thing; for someone's or something's advantage or good. For example, For Jill's sake we did not serve meat, or We have to stop fighting for the sake of family unity. [Early 1200s]
2. For the purpose or motive of, as in You like to quarrel only for the sake of an argument. [Early 1200s]
3. for God's sake. Also for goodness or heaven's or Pete's or pity's sake . An exclamation showing surprise, impatience, anger, or some other emotion, depending on the context. For example, For God's sake, I didn't expect to see you here, or Hurry up, for goodness sake, or For heaven's sake, how can you say such a mean thing? or For pity's sake, finish your dinner. The variants are euphemisms for God. [c. 1300] For a synonym, see for the love of, def. 2.
See also: of, sake

take pity on

Also, have pity on. Show compassion or mercy to, as in Take pity on the cook and eat that last piece of cake, or, as Miles Coverdale's 1535 translation of the Bible has it (Job 19:21), "Have pity upon me, have pity upon me, O ye, my friends." This idiom may be used half-jokingly, as in the first example, or seriously. [Late 1200s]
See also: on, pity, take

For Pete’s sake!

and For pity’s sake! and For the love of Mike!
exclam. Good grief! For Pete’s sake! Is that you Charlie? For pity’s sake! Ask the man in out of the cold!

For pity’s sake!

References in classic literature ?
That afterglow has long faded away; and the picture we are apt to make of Methodism in our imagination is not an amphitheatre of green hills, or the deep shade of broad-leaved sycamores, where a crowd of rough men and weary-hearted women drank in a faith which was a rudimentary culture, which linked their thoughts with the past, lifted their imagination above the sordid details of their own narrow lives, and suffused their souls with the sense of a pitying, loving, infinite Presence, sweet as summer to the houseless needy.
I felt a sort of pitying anguish over the pathos of my own lot: the lot of a being finely organized for pain, but with hardly any fibres that responded to pleasure--to whom the idea of future evil robbed the present of its joy, and for whom the idea of future good did not still the uneasiness of a present yearning or a present dread.
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I know that makes me sound incredibly shallow and I am hurting, but the thought of everyone pitying me is worse.
They'll be as disgusted as I was by his suggestion and far from pitying you, they'll congratulate you on your good sense on refusing to go along with it.
They look at such examples as the pittiers and the pitted in Herodotus and Thucydides; pity, power, and spectacle in Sophacles' Trachiniae; vase painting; pitying the sick in the Hippocratic corpus and Greek tragedy; and Plutarch.
It is the contrast between Ladislaw's 'sunny brightness' and Casaubon's 'rayless gloom' (241) that prompts in Dorothea 'the first stirrings of a pitying tenderness fed by the realities of [Casaubon's] lot and not by her own dreams' (242).
Arguably, Jones's conflict with Ella Mae has less to do with her pitying him than it does with his inability to articulate his feelings of powerlessness to her without appearing helpless.
In both tales 2 and 26 there is no pitying party who can mitigate the suffering of another.
The social surveyor, George Henry, is described as "more pitying and sympathetic" (p 287).
I would hear disdainful laughter rather than see pitying tears because I would imagine other men to be like him" (13).