go behind (someone's) back

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go behind (someone's) back

To do something in someone's absence. The phrase typically suggests wrongdoing or deceit. I can't believe you went behind my back and gossiped about me! Tom will be upset that we've gone behind his back and made the decision.
See also: back, behind

go behind someone's back

 
1. Lit. to move behind someone; to locate oneself at someone's back. The mugger went behind my back and put a gun to my spine. Bob went behind my back and pushed me through the opening.
2. Fig. to do something that is kept a secret from someone affected by it. I hate to go behind her back, but she makes so much trouble about things like this. Please don't try to go behind my back again!
See also: back, behind

go behind someone's back

If someone goes behind your back, they do something secretly or without your permission. Leonard, you haven't been completely open with me. You think I wouldn't know when you go behind my back? They go behind our backs, they withhold information, they talk down to us like idiots. Compare with do something behind someone's back.
See also: back, behind
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He added: I would contrast the very open way in which I have handled this matter with those who go behind your back to stir things up, who do not even have the moral fibre to come and raise any issues of concern directly with me.
Every mother has to train herself not to shriek in horror when she hears this sort of suggestion, but the secret is to allow your child to feel that he or she can come to you with outlandish ideas, otherwise they will just go behind your back.
Ask your teenager if they've thought it through properly and lay out the pros and cons, but make it clear that it's their decision or they'll just go behind your back.