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fence with (someone)
In a conversation, to evade or avoid directly answering someone or something. Ever the sly spin doctor, the candidate was able to deftly fence with the journalist around questions of his dubious background.
swing for the fences
1. baseball Literally, to put all one's power into one's swing while batting so as to try to hit a home run. All they need is two more runs to win the game, so you can bet their star batter will come out swinging for the fences.
2. By extension, to put forward one's maximum amount of effort or energy (into or toward something); to act or perform with great intensity or effort. I wasn't sure about their state-appointed lawyer at first, but I was well impressed when he came out swinging for the fences on day one of the trial.
mend (one's) fences
To rectify a damaged relationship. After Jill heard that her father had become ill, she decided it was time for them to mend their fences before it was too late. The politician tried to mend his fences with his constituents after the scandal, but was not able to regain their trust before the next election.
sit on the fence
To not make a decision or take a side when presented with two options or possibilities. You can't sit on the fence any longer—you need to choose who of these two we need to fire. The government has been sitting on the fence about legalizing marijuana for the past five years.
the grass is always greener (on the other side)
Other people's circumstances or belongings always seem more desirable than one's own. A: "It just seems like they have this perfect life, always traveling and spending time together." B: "Hey, the grass is always greener. I'm sure they have their own problems that no one else can see." The grass is always greener on the other side—the sooner you realize that and stop comparing your life to others', the happier you'll be!
on the fence
Not making a decision or taking a side when presented with two options or possibilities. You can't sit on the fence any longer—you need to choose who of these two we need to fire. The government has been on the fence about legalizing marijuana for the past five years.
fence an animal in
to enclose an animal and its area within a fence or barrier. We fenced the dog in to keep it at home. We had to fence in the dog.
fence someone in
to restrict someone in some way. I don't want to fence you in, but you have to get home earlier at night. Don't try to fence me in. I need a lot of freedom. Your last stupid move fenced in the department, making us less effective.
fence (someone or an animal) out
to keep someone or an animal out with a fence or barrier. We decided that living in the woods was satisfactory only if we fenced the wildlife out. We had to fence out the deer. We hoped we had fenced prowlers out with the tall electric fence.
fence someone or something off (from something)
to separate someone or something from something else with a fence or barrier. We fenced the children's play area off from the rest of the yard. Dave fenced off the play area. We fenced off the children from the rest of the yard.
fence something in
to enclose an area within a fence. When they fenced the garden in, they thought the deer wouldn't be able to destroy the flowers. We fenced in the yard to make a safe place for the children.
Good fences make good neighbors.
Prov. It is easier to be friendly with your neighbor if neither of you trespasses upon the other's property or privacy. Jane: The guy next door is letting his party guests wander across our lawn again. Alan: I guess we'll have to build a fence there. Good fences make good neighbors, like they say.
*on the fence (about something)
Fig. undecided about something. (*Typically: be ~; sit ~.) Ann is on the fence about going to Mexico. I wouldn't be on the fence. I'd love to go.
sit on the fence
Fig. not to take sides in a dispute; not to make a clear choice between two possibilities. (Fig. on the image of someone straddling a fence, representing indecision.) When Jane and Tom argue, it is best to sit on the fence and not make either of them angry. No one knows which of the candidates Joan will vote for. She's sitting on the fence.
sit on the fence
(about something) Go to on the fence (about something).
straddle the fence
Fig. to support both sides of an issue. (As if one were partly on either side of a fence.) The mayor is straddling the fence on this issue, hoping the public will forget it. The legislator wanted to straddle the fence until the last minute, and that alone cost her a lot of votes.
Also, hem in. Restrict or confine someone, as in He wanted to take on more assignments but was fenced in by his contract, or Their father was old-fashioned and the children were hemmed in by his rules. Both expressions transfer a literal form of enclosure to a figurative one. The first gained currency from a popular song in the style of a cowboy folk song by Cole Porter, "Don't Fence Me In" (1944), in which the cowboy celebrates open land and starry skies. The variant is much older, dating from the late 1500s.
Avoid answering directly, try to evade, as in The mayor was very clever at fencing with the press about his future plans. This expression transfers the parry and thrust of fencing to a verbal exchange. [Second half of 1600s]
mend one's fences
Improve poor relations; placate personal, political, or business contacts. For example, The senator always goes home weekends and spends time mending his fences. This metaphoric expression dates from an 1879 speech by Senator John Sherman in Mansfield, Ohio, to which he said he had returned "to look after my fences." Although he may have meant literally to repair the fences around his farm there, media accounts of the speech took him to mean campaigning among his constituents. In succeeding decades the term was applied to nonpolitical affairs as well.
on the fence, be
Also, straddle the fence. Be undecided, not committed, as in I don't know if I'll move there; I'm still on the fence, or He's straddling the fence about the merger. This picturesque expression, with its implication that one can jump to either side, at first was applied mainly to political commitments. [Early 1800s]
See also: on
come off the fence
If someone comes off the fence, they at last state their opinion about something or show who they support. These events have forced the President to come off the fence and support the market reformers. Note: Verbs such as climb or get can be used instead of come. It is time for us to get off the fence, to speak up, and to vote.
sit on the fence
COMMON If you sit on the fence, you refuse to give a definite opinion about something or to say who you support in an argument. Who was cooler, Starsky or Hutch? You couldn't sit on the fence and say you liked both of them equally. Note: Verbs such as stay and be can be used instead of sit. Democrats who'd been on the fence about the nomination, in the end all voted for him. Note: You can call this kind of behaviour fence-sitting, and someone who behaves like this a fence-sitter. At his first press conference there was much fence-sitting. I sense that there are a lot of fence-sitters out there on this issue. Note: These expressions are usually used to show that you disapprove of the fact that someone is not making a decision. Note: The fence referred to is one that separates two properties or territories and someone sitting on it is unable or unwilling to make a decision about which side to stand on.
mend your fences
COMMON If you mend fences or mend your fences, you do something to improve your relationship with someone you have argued with. Yesterday he was publicly criticised for not doing enough to mend fences with his big political rival. He had managed to annoy every member of the family and thought he'd better mend his fences. Note: You can call this process fence-mending. The king is out of the country on a fence-mending mission to the European Community.
the grass is always greeneror
the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence
If you say the grass is always greener or the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, you mean that other people often seem to be in a better situation than you, but in reality their situation may not be as good as it seems. You know what it's like — the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. I'm always looking at jobs advertised online and thinking I'd be better off somewhere else. Note: Grass and greener are often used in other expressions with a similar meaning. A lot of players who have left in the past have found that the grass isn't always greener elsewhere. I cannot have my staff believing that the grass is always greener in another company.
over the fenceunreasonable or unacceptable. Australian & New Zealand informal
1964 Sydney Morning Herald Some publications which unduly emphasize sex were ‘entirely over the fence’.
sit on the fenceavoid making a decision or choice.
The two sides of a fence are seen here as representing the two opposing or conflicting positions or interests involved in a particular debate or situation.
1995 Duncan McLean Bunker Man Let's have a proper decision—goal or no goal—none of this sitting on the fence.
the grass is always greenerother people's lives or situations always seem better than your own.
This is a shortened form of the proverb ‘the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence’, usually used as a caution against dissatisfaction with your own lot in life. There are a number of sayings about the attractions of something distant or inaccessible, for example blue are the faraway hills .
mend (your) fencesmake peace with a person.
This expression originated in the late 19th century in the USA, with reference to a member of Congress returning to his home town to keep in touch with the voters and to look after his interests there. Similar notions are conjured up by the saying good fences make good neighbours .
1994 Louis de Bernières Captain Corelli's Mandolin He knew assuredly he should go and mend his fences with the priest.
rush your fencesact with undue haste. British
This is a metaphor from horse riding: in the hunting field if you rush your fences , rather than tackling the obstacles steadily, you risk a fall.
make a Virginia fencewalk crookedly because you are drunk. US
A Virginia fence is a fence made of split rails or poles joined in a zigzag pattern with their ends crossing.
mend (your) ˈfences (with somebody)(British English) find a solution to a disagreement with somebody: Is it too late to mend fences with your brother?
my, her, the other, the same, etc. side of the ˈfencemy, the opposite, the same, etc. point of view or position in an argument: The former allies are now on opposite sides of the fence. ♢ Make up your mind — which side of the fence are you on?
sit on the ˈfenceavoid deciding between two sides of an argument, discussion, quarrel, etc: Either you support me or you don’t. You can’t sit on the fence all your life. ♢ Politicians cannot sit on the fence. People expect them to have clear views. OPPOSITE: take sides ▶ ˈfence-sitter noun a person who cannot or does not want to decide which side of an argument, etc. to support
n. someone who cannot decide which side to be on. We need to find a way to persuade the fence hangers to come over to our side.
mod. angry. (California.) Boy, was that old man fenced!
go for the fences
in. to set extremely high goals and do whatever is needed to meet them. (Alludes to attempting to hit a home run against the fences of a baseball stadium.) We are going to go for the fences on this one. Don’t hold back on anything.
straddle the fence
tv. to support both sides of an issue. The mayor is straddling the fence on this issue, hoping the public will forget it.
on the fenceInformal
Undecided as to which of two sides to support; uncommitted or neutral.
To improve poor relations, especially in politics: "Whatever thoughts he may have entertained about mending some fences with [them] were banished" (Conor Cruise O'Brien).
straddle the fenceInformal
To be undecided or uncommitted.