know where (one) is with (someone or something)

1. To know how one is regarded or perceived by someone. I think I did well in the interview, but I wish I knew where I was with the recruiter.

2. To know one's position or views on some topic. I'm opposed to this measure, but does anyone know where the boss is with it?

know where you are (or stand) with

know how you are regarded by someone; know the opinions of someone on an issue.

1991 Julian Barnes Talking It Over Good old Stuart, he's so reliable. You know where you are with Stuart .