(not) the be-all and end-all

(not) the be-all and end-all

The most important event or thing. Often used in the negative. My little sister thinks that a date with the captain of the football team is just the be-all and end-all of her life right now. Oh honey, I know you're disappointed, but failing the driver's license test is not the be-all and end-all. You'll just practice some more and then take it again.
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be-all and end-all

Cliché something that is the very best or most important; something so good that it will end the search for something better. Finishing the building of his boat became the be-all and end-all of Roger's existence. Sally is the be-all and the end-all of Don's life.
See also: and

not the be-all and end-all

COMMON If something is not the be-all and end-all, it is not the only important thing in a particular situation. Results are not the be-all and end-all of education. My career is important, but it's not the be-all and end-all.
See also: and, not

the be-all and end-all

a feature of an activity or a way of life that is of greater importance than any other. informal
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the ˌbe-all and ˈend-all (of something)

(informal) the most important thing/person; the only thing/person that matters: His girlfriend is the be-all and end-all of his existence.I’ll never be rich, but money isn’t the be-all and end-all, you know.
See also: and